The other day, I made a comment to a young lady telling her that her boyfriend was worth the investment. I didn’t put a lot of thought to the comment, it just came out because I believed it. After I said it though, it really made me think about relationships between a man and a woman.
The young man I was referring to is someone very near and dear to me and someone whom I have always seen great potential in. From the very start, I have seen the man who God wants him to be.
Of course, this is a young couple who are both growing and maturing, figuring out who they are in relation to themselves, each other, and I would venture to say, even God. As I watch and pray for them, I can’t help but see the importance of investing in the person we are with .. not just the relationship.
I’m amazed as I watch this young man grow and see him maturing. I have watched him grow from almost indifferent towards his girlfriend to being just that .. invested. No longer is it just a relationship for the sake of relationship. It’s something more. It’s a realization that the other person has taken hold of a place in your heart that no one else can or ever will fill.
What a hopeful thing to see! When we are invested, we are willing to go through a thing or two. When we are invested, we have something to fight for. When we are invested, we allow God to show us the person we love through His eyes instead of our own. When we are invested, we are willing to bear our hearts, even when it hurts.
I believe this is one of the key factors to really good marriages. Marriages shouldn’t be just a matter of convenience or filling financial and physical needs because it’s some sort of contract. Marriage should be an investment in a person that God chose for me.
Unfortunately, I’ve been through divorce and didn’t realize these things in my previous marriage. I fell into the trap of believing that marriage was about our individual happiness. Mostly, I didn’t have God focused eyes to help me see the things I could not see.
While I’m not proud to say I’m divorced, I am thankful the situation ultimately led God to open my spiritual eyes. I’m also thankful that God had someone in mind for me because, being the gracious God He is, He would give me a second shot at marriage. God would teach me the importance of not just being committed to a marriage, but being invested in the man He has chosen for me. What a difference investing in the man versus the marriage makes.
Why? Because now that I invest in my husband versus my marriage, I’ve been given a glimpse of the bond that God truly intends between a man and woman .. and I realize just how valuable that bond truly is! It is something to desire and strive for. It’s beautiful and it’s worth every bit of effort and ugly thing you have to go through to get it.
When you are truly invested, you have everything to lose .. yes. But on the other hand, when God is the one leading the investment, you have something that is priceless to gain … a type of love that only God can create.
I love my husband.