As a woman, I can say that I’ve had a good look at how the world expects us women to act. This, of course, was before I knew Christ.
In the world, society teaches us that we are to dress a certain way … typically as eye candy to ‘please a man.’ We are to act a certain way … typically a bit on the ‘seductive’ side with flirtatious demeanor. And in today’s world, as women, we are to even be the ‘huntress’ … typically we are expected to be the ones to lure men.
This is what society teaches our girls from a very young age. This thought process, in my opinion, is one of the major factors that leads to teen pregnancy, broken hearts, broken relationships, and ultimately a society full of divorce. Our girls are being taught that love is all physical, from how you look to getting a man to touch you. And our boys are being taught that they have their pick of the litter, devaluing the real beauty of what a woman has to offer. Every where you look there are love-sick souls seeking a love that just doesn’t really seem to be attainable. Wounded hearts .. warped minds .. and laden with all kinds of physical and emotional diseases in the aftermath.
But the Bible teaches a different kind of love.
In the Song of Solomon, it’s a beautiful book of love and passion … romance. It speaks even of sexuality .. embracing, kissing, and of physical intimacy through caressing using language that made me blush the first time I read it! After all, it is the Bible. But this is not a book about sex. It’s a book about love and desire. The biggest message I hear is … awake not love until it so desires.
In our society, desire drives us. We ‘long’ to be loved and ‘crave’ it so much that we find ourselves, both men and women, doing silly and hurtful things to ourselves to find it. Yet the Bible tells us to wait for it.
When we take time to allow it to happen and not rush it, we allow God to open the door to passion on His timing. In our ‘NOW’ driven society, it’s hard for us to imagine waiting, but when we do, we allow God to create something that we could only know because we waited for Him.
I was reminded this morning of Christ’s love towards me. After a short but heartfelt prayer inviting Christ in to my heart today, I felt Him draw near just a short time later. I could feel Him embracing me. As I continued on in my day, tears came to my eyes as something caught my attention that only He could know I had been thinking about. I knew that He had been paying attention and listening to me. I knew that He cared. Honestly, I can say that I am blessed because I have those moments with God. I have experienced an intimacy that I know others have not. I have spent time getting to know Him and waiting for Him to reveal Himself to me. But to me, that’s the easy part. After all, He’s God. He can read my thoughts and His spirit is in me. However, I know that His desire is not just that we would have this great thing with Him, but that His church, His bride, His children .. would understand that He desires for us to experience that same level of love towards one another.
So I’m not really quite sure exactly how to do that. Truthfully, I’m still figuring it out myself. I sometimes want to rush into the ‘feel good’ moments with people because I too, am still in this world. But one thing I do know is that it involves waiting. I’m thankful that I have a close relationship with Christ because when I get impatient and want to rush, He somehow gives me a gentle look and I’m compelled to continue to wait for His timing. When I feel I’ve done all I can do with no results and want to move on to something else, He gently puts His arm around me and somehow, waiting doesn’t seem like such a big deal.
Awake not love until it so desires …
I’m fairly certain that Jesus has big things in store for those who wait. I’m fairly certain it involves that love that seems to be so unattainable in this world. As a matter of a fact, I’m certain of it because He’s given me glimpses of it .. and not just with Him .. but with my beloved husband, my children, and even an occasional fellow Christian or two that I’ve encountered in my walk.
When you wait for love instead of forcing it … it’s so much more than what the world has to offer …. it’s absolutely … breathless!